The Matter
If you were taking a look at the internet interaction between me and my husband you wouldn't even think we're friends, not to mention married. He never"likes" my photos or posts and he rarely comments on any one of my statuses. This has contributed to some of my buddies and even a few of my relatives writing to me personally on social networking to ask if everything is fine around. At first, I was baffled that folks would presume my husband and I were having marital issues because he did not"just like" my new profile selfie. Of course, he didn't"like" it. He had been there when I required it. Why could he have liked it online when he has already seen it?
But this started me thinking about the way that social media contours the people perspective of their relationships. Our marriage is dependable, however there were those who knew us both assuming that we were in trouble because we didn't interact on social media. Isn't this weird? Maybe it's not. Maybe we ought to really be judging other people's relationships by what we see online. But I actually don't believe so. And here is why:
Social networking isn't real. It's really a construct that we've constructed at which everyone always looks great and is having fun and magically good lighting is simply everywhere. Social media could be the hyper-glossy variation of the regular lives that are boring. Nobody cares after I make pork chops for lunch. Social support systems is that which we wish our lives are like, maybe not exactly what our lives are actually like.
No Fight Is Fun The Science Behind It
And science backs that up. There is actual evidence that couples who are all into each other's social media and posting photos constantly of the two of those being joyful and commenting around one another's pages are in fact extremely unhappy. The very best relationships, according to science and psychology, are the ones at which the spouses do not believe the need to interact constantly on social networking or article photos of how joyful they are.
So no, don't be mad if your partner does not enjoy all your social media posts, label you in most single photo, or post dozens of photos of the two of you together. If your relationship is so solid it will not need to be constantly on display. And if a partner does start becoming habituated on societal media or starts using spy apps on then you should probably have a conversation with your partner regarding the status of one's relationship. Or do a background check into Kiwi Searches.